“How happy is the blameless vestal’s lot. The world forgetting, by the world forgot. Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. Each prayer accepted, and each wish resigned.”
one of my favorite movie.
it’s so sad, isn’t it? being forgotten by the most important person in your world and just like that…
you are not remembered.
why would you think that you will get bored of someone that you once loved? or are you just experiencing a post-traumatic disorder where you realize you wanted to be alone, without him/her in your life?
have you ever ask yourself… do you really love the person? because if you do… you must be committed in every way you can to make them happy. yes. sometimes it will be rough. you will encounter hardships along the way, and it will not be the fairy tale that you wanted it to be. it can be, if you work on it.
when i watched this movie for several times now… they have this recording of one another on how bad they feel going through the procedure because they want to forget each other. Clementine and Joel are both incomplete. especially Clementine. She don’t know herself anymore. it’s like she is not the Clementine that she knew. it started when she’s with Joel. Joel’s life, as he always states, is not interesting. As Clem told Joel that her life is an open book to him, but Joel never shares any personal details to Clem. They’re not that open to one another.
Clementine is the one who did it first. The whole erasing him thing. Joel just did the procedure because he can’t take the pain anymore. he’s confused. he must really love her to the extent that he don’t want to lose her and he kept on running away with her on his memories while he can to suppress the memory of her. while the guys who does the erasing thing, Joel fights back. he doesn’t want it. he can’t. it’s already done. it’s too late.
in this case, when Joel woke up, he didn’t remember anything about Clem. every piece of her in his apartment. gone. every memory, good ones and bad ones. gone. i thought that it’s over. but fate will tell you when it is over. you will have your second chance. just make sure that it will work for good. it’ll still be hard but as long as you’re in it together, nothing will go wrong.
if you really are meant to be, chances are, fate will bring you back together.
it came to me in the most obvious way… that love can be challenging. you thought that you’ve met the most undesirable person in the world just because he didn’t meet your standards. but did it ever occur to you that maybe you have to change something in yourself too? that maybe you’ve been this unkind person as well and you also thinking that you are doing just fine, but the truth is, you’re not. sometimes we believe that we’re not doing anything wrong and we must not care what other people think just because you know you’re not doing anything wrong. that’s not how it works.
if you know that someone is hurting because of your doings, are you still going to continue the way you handle things? well, think again. what if that person is doing the same thing to you? and deep inside you really don’t like it cause you’re hurting…
be respectful. be sensitive. be mindful that your mind doesn’t fit other people’s minds. we have our own beliefs. as long as you know that you’re not stepping on to someone, then everything should be fine. that’s how you are going to be remembered.
in my part, i’m just quiet. well, sometimes i’m not. i can be cruel. i can be rude. i can be this monster who’ll not be satisfied with what i already know. i’m like a detective. i know what you are doing and what’s going to happen after you did it. every event are unpredictable. inevitable.